Hellooo, I’m so happy you're here!
I'm Jess, a Holistic Counsellor who is obsessed with relationships, here to help you transform your love life (and your relationship with yourself...cause that's where it all starts!)
MEET THE FOUNDER & CEO
Hey, I'm Jess!
It’s time to stop shrinking. Learn to attract the dream relationships you crave - where showing up as your full, authentic self is non-negotiable. We always begin by embracing your relationship with the person who matters most: you.
I used to live the painful loop of believing, 'Nobody ever chooses me.' I would constantly lose myself and dim my light just to fit into relationships, always agonising over whether I'd ever find my person. I was longing for that magical connection (which I wasn’t even totally sure existed at all), yet I refused to settle for a relationship that required me to be anything less than my full self. I know that heart-dropping feeling of meeting someone, getting cautiously excited about the possibility, and then being utterly let down, again.
But the turning point came when I committed completely to myself. After a period of messy healing, real personal growth, and plenty of tears, I started giving myself the exact love, attention, and unwavering acceptance I craved from a partner. By becoming so solid in who I was and what I wanted, the surprising result was that attracting my dream human (who I married!) became easy…like really easy.
Now, I work with you to skip the years of struggle. I help you stop the self-abandonment cycle, bring your full, true self into relationships, and finally attract the connection you've always dreamed of but maybe doubted was truly possible. It’s time to stop settling for less than what you really want and make it happen.
Diploma in Holistic Counselling
Certified with ETIA Effectiveness Training (Non-Violent Communication)
EFT & TFT Practitioner Certification
Certified Life Coach
Very Unserious Facts About Me
JUST FOR FUNZIES
I had a travel curse from 2009 - 2017 (it's broken now, you can totally travel with me!)
I'm an absolute hound for popcorn
I love to dance and sing (I'm not particularly good at either but I do them anyway cause they bring me joy)
I've been totally sober since the start of 2020
I grew up obsessed with reality tv because I loved people dynamics and the whole social experience part of it
I'm an ocean baby and can't get enough of all weird and wonderful creatures in the sea
At home I speak in all sorts of odd voices and accents for no reason at all
I'm married to a man, but am proudly pansexual and love my queer community
I love to roller blade
My ideal day: take me far away from all humans and plonk me in the mountains with a nice swim hole
I can sing like a chipmunk
My story
I grew up in Tāmaki Makaurau, Aotearoa (aka Auckland, New Zealand), with a passion for nature, adventure and helping others. I spent many years chasing different adventures around the world, taking me to places like Mongolia, Japan, China and Russia, before I’d turned 20.
It was shortly before my 21st birthday when I had a near death experience in India. I woke up in the middle of the night to find my hotel was on fire. After running through a burning hallway and narrowly escaping an explosion, I made it out alive, with just the clothes on my back (oh and a few bruises, burnt hair and tail bone injury that is still with me today).
I believe this experience was a gift from the universe that was sent to shake me onto a different path. Because of my tail bone injury that night, I found yoga. Or yoga found me. Initially it was just “exercise” to me, but slowly over time, it truly rewired my brain and touched my soul in a way that I hadn’t experienced before. I became comfortable sitting in discomfort, which is one of the best lessons I could have learned at a young age. I began looking at the world with so much curiosity, not taking things at face value and feeling into the true meaning of why I was here.
Over the years I have become a strong voice for the oceans, animals, our planet, freedom & equality for everyone. I learned to embrace my authentic self, my soul’s voice that I had brushed aside for so long. I let go of fear of what people would think of me (and even if I still felt it, I just learned to do it anyway).
After a lifetime of thinking I always needed to “think positive” and “be happy”, I began to learn that the true joy in life comes from being able to experience the full spectrum of emotions that live within us. If we are blocking ourselves from feeling the uncomfortable emotions, we won't be able to feel the full POWER of the amazing emotions too.
I discovered a vulnerability within myself that I had never wanted to look at, which lead to feeling the deepest joy I had ever felt in my life. If we are not truly willing to experience the pain life can throw our way, we’re never really on the field playing the game. We’re just on the sidelines.
I now truly love experiencing what life throws my way. I'm grateful for the good days, the hard days and everything in between.
Why I love what I do
I truly believe that the more we can connect with ourselves and show ourselves true love, the more we are able to connect with others and the world around us. We can only love someone as deeply as we love ourselves. So the more we can build our relationship to ourselves, our empathy and care, the more we can show love and compassion to other humans, animals and the planet. AND CHANGE THE WORLD.
There are so many people out there that say things like ...
"You can't have everything you want"
"You're going to have to settle on something"
"You can't make good money doing that"
"Just get over it and move on"
"Just look at the positives"
"You have to FULLY love yourself before you can find your person"
So I'm here to remind you that it's all a bunch of bull crap and you don't have to live your life by other people's rules and stories.
We don't wake up one day and realise we suddenly love ourselves. It's a journey. It ebbs and flows. Some days it's amazing and some days it's really hard to love ourselves. But as long as you are building that relationship to YOU, that's the important thing.
I know for a fact that we can ALL live a wholesome and beautiful life full of joy and love. We don't have to keep struggling. We don't have to keep justifying why something is good for us when it feels wrong in our hearts. We don't have to keep settling for the same mediocre stuff life is throwing our way.
My goal is to help you see and create the life you've always wanted and ditch the old stories and beliefs that have been keeping you stuck.
Co-exploration approach (no hierarchy BS over here)
Compassion, caring and safe environment (for all humans 🏳️🌈)
Deep, meaningful self-work with a side of playfulness and lightness (to remind us it doesn't have to be hard work all the time)
Let’s create something MAGICAL!
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I'm really passionate about working with the people I'm meant to support. I want to work with people who believe I'm the right person for them (and vice versa). This kind of work is deeply personal and you have to feel safe and trusting to make progress.
Let's chat and see if we are a good fit to work together and if I'm the right person to support you on this journey.
